Unitarians regard marriage as one of the most significant commitments a human being will experience in his or her lifetime. It is indeed a momentous occasion and should rightfully be accompanied by both ritual observance and festive celebration. While Unitarians do not agree that marriage is a "sacrament" requiring ecclesiastical sanction, we expect that couples married in our tradition will take their commitment just as seriously.
We believe a wedding should reflect the unique personalities and spiritualities of a specific couple, as well as accurately represent the faith tradition that provides the context for the occasion.
A wedding ought to accomplish more than merely fulfilling the letter of the law. Equally important is that couples recognize the spiritual dimension of their marriage and that they cherish the memory of the wedding day for the rest of their lives.
Couples come to a Unitarian Church to be married for many reasons:
- We are more open and flexible about the design of the ceremony
- We are happy, and able, to perform both same and different sex marriages
- We are happy to perform ceremonies for couples from different faith traditions
- Membership of our church is not required in order to be married by one of our Celebrants
- We do not stigmatize couples who have been cohabiting prior to marriage, or because one or both parties have been married previously
Emma and Chris 2008